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The Breast Punishment Primer discusses erotic BDSM and bondage as it applies to the female breast. Generally thought of as a "kinky" or "underground" sexual practice, erotic BDSM is actually practiced my millions of people worldwide, with breast bondage and torment being prevalent in that practice. The Primer, though written from a humorous perspective, has been hailed as a one-of-a-kind resource and has been reprinted in numerous BDSM sexuality sites throughout the Internet.

The Obligatory Preface

In my semi-long and somewhat illustrious career as a merchant of the pleasures of breast punishment through Darker Pleasures, I've learned a lot about the "thou shalts" and "thou shouldn'ts" of erotic tit torment. Many of them I've learned through trial and error, while others I've only had the luxury of reading about. I’ve had tons of hands-on, teeth-on, yard tool-on, kitchen cutlery-on, hair accessory-on, and gadgets-yet-to-be-patented-on practice in the fine art of breast and nipple torment. I've probably written, photographed, and scripted more breast bondage and tit torment scenes than most men have lost socks in the black holes that haunt clothes dryers.

In short, I've learned boat loads of information about safely tormenting titties, and I know just as much about "Who gives a damn, they belong to me and I'll break them if I want to" tit torment.

A wise man once said, "With great power comes great responsibility."

Not only should that be the adage of all people trusted with the fate of a gorgeous pair of knockers, I was told it should be mine as well. So, with the increasing number of folks asking me for advice over the years, and because the person that pays my check is always harping at me to do something constructive with all the time I spend drooling over archived shots of all our gals' tormented titties, I thought I’d put together this primer in hopes of helping everyone out a bit.

I know that you'll all be eager to skip from one humorous anecdote to another, without wasting your time reading all the boring, serious stuff. Even so, I'd really suggest you resist the temptation. The boring, serious stuff is very important. This future Pulitzer-winning masterpiece is meant to be read in its entirety. Like the Bible and other good books, if you pick and choose references out of context, you end up with all sorts of problems. Look at all the guidance counseling and emotional trauma that resulted from the Crusades.

Oh, one other thing before I move on to the funner stuff. Though The Breast Punishment Primer is based on reliable and sometimes scientific information, and I've tried my dangedest to make it useful and informative, this is all off the record, folks. Despite my credentials in Internet webmaster breast torment website circles, I still claim only a layman's expertise. What I won't claim is any responsibility whatsoever for what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom, office, kitchen, S.U.V., back yard, dungeon or secret outdoor get-a-way.

Inflicting physical pain on a consenting pair of Hill Twins can be erotic, fun and profitable, but it should never be taken lightly. Remember guys and dolls, your eager little submissive may have signed all rights to her breasts over to you in that multi-million dollar pre-nuptial agreement, but they're still attached to her chest.

Don't do anything foolish.

Just a little legal disclaimer to satisfy our attorneys. Now, on to the show.

"Booby is Only Skin Deep"

Lesson number one of good erotic breast torment is to remember the old adage, “Beauty is only skin deep,” but for our purposes I’ll be modifying that saying a bit.

Since we all agree that boobs are beautiful, the slight modification I'm going to use should be easy enough to adapt to. That modification is, "Booby is only skin deep." "Booby is only skin deep" is the cardinal rule of breast torment for all you budding breast punishers out there. Any time you and your wife, girlfriend, next-door-neighbor, slave, or professional escort of the day get together over tea and crumpets for a little mindless afternoon BDSM, always make certain that nothing you do harms anything beneath the naked covering that you can see with the naked eye.

Now, let's take a rather boring scientific kind of look at one of our favorite objects of torment, shall we?

The innards of breasts are made up of an assortment of fat, glands, ductwork, veins, and other odds and ends that don't take kindly to being treated disrespectfully. Remember, female breasts are called female for a very good reason, and are as affected by hormones as everyone with that particular chromosome pattern (boy, am I going to take heat for that one). If you damage any of these underlying parts, titties often swell up and start to resemble granite or some similar metamorphic rock, scream and yell, refuse to do your laundry, call the F.B.I., turn into alien beings, or some combination of these.

The three parts that can take a bit of punishment without ruining your day, however, are the nipple, the areola, and the skin. (Yes, I know that these parts are all made of skin. It's called poetic license, roll with me here...)

The nipple and areola, are the darker parts of the breast. They are generally located at the very tip of the breast, and are therefore the closest thing to you when you're looking for something to grab, bite, or otherwise torment. They are also, by and large, the most popular part of the breast, though we find that they don't jiggle nearly as well without all the other stuff beneath them. They range in normal color from various shades of brown to various shades of red and pink. Blue and purple come later.

These little parts are actually quite tough, as they were originally designed to be sucked, chewed, clawed, pinched and otherwise mauled by little children who have no idea what erotic tit torment is, yet accomplish it with a skill that would humble the most accomplished BDSM Master on the planet.

Some people would argue that, since little children don't have teeth, they couldn't possibly do anything that would hurt. Try asking a nursing mom about the accuracy of that statement sometime. Once she's removed her knuckles from what remains of your teeth, she will explain otherwise, I assure you. Think on it just a minute. Kids are capable of destroying anything. In fact, if our government would simply tell children that all the video games that they could ever want lie just beyond enemy lines, our next war would only last 5.3 minutes at the outside. But I digress.

One would think that one small nipple and areola would have little chance against this type of destructive force, but there they are, just waiting for your clamps and nipple stretchers, proving that they are very tough indeed.

In actuality, the nipple is just crammed full of nerves and can be very sensitive. Great care should be taken when torturing a nipple to make certain that the tormente gives some kind of informed consent to whatever nasty that you're perpetrating on it. Even if your love slave claims to have released her entire being to you and is begging profusely for you to use the Cuisinart, keep in mind that hindsight is always twenty-twenty. She may not be quite as cooperative the next time once the white-hot skewer of doom is removed and she's had time to realize the extent of damage your Dom-deeds have done.

The areola on the other hand, is arguably less sensitive in some ways than any other part of the breast, including the nipple and the white meat. You might consider this in your travels, as it is in basically the same vicinity, and of similar coloration, as the nipple, and so can be used as a willing substitute for many activities, particularly when cold or really excited, at which time it becomes very hard, crinkly, and chewable. This was the part that was actually meant to be addressed by your ankle biting children. It's just very difficult explaining that to creatures that drool, spit up and poop for entertainment.

If you watch a curtain crawling infant in action on an unsuspecting breast, they're really gumming for all their worth on the areola, trying as best as their screaming little mouths will allow to pump from a reservoir of milk that gathers just beneath it and squeeze dinner up through the nipple. Rumor has it that some really enthusiastic moms will keep breast feeding their kids well past the time when their children get teeth, into their college years and sometimes into dentures. If these lucky little children were gnawing directly on their mom's nipples with their pearly whites, do you really think they'd be drinking anything besides Similac or Enfamil? Got milk? Not out of my tit you don't!

Now that I've covered the working parts that you'll be playing with, let's move on to the rest.

The white meat, otherwise referred to as "skin," is typically known as the boob and makes up the majority of the outer covering of a love mound. In some ways it is very sensitive to touch and other light stimulus while in others it is pretty much capable of taking on whatever your sadistic heart desires. Many women claim that they can handle tough stuff with their areola more easily than the rest of their boobs, particularly the bottom half that is rather like the dark side of the moon and hardly ever sees the light of day, unless you're lucky enough to have a slave that frequently cavorts topless in the outdoors.

If you're concerned about your partner's enjoyment, I'd suggest experimenting on the gentle side at first. If you'd rather not experiment, breast skin folds very nicely between the hungry jaws of a clothespin.

As I've mentioned, inside your garden variety breast there are all sorts of things you'd probably rather not see. That's why the creator in his or her infinite wisdom hid it all so smartly behind such an attractive cover.

I took my thirteen-year-old to the science museum recently, and he dashed straight to the anatomy section, being the testosterone-laden adolescent that he is. At first he asked if he could take home pictures and scale models of the naked twenty-something-year-old homo-sapiens female that they had in full three-dimensional plastic splendor. That was until the display rotated around to reveal the same plastic woman with an equally three dimensional plastic cut away version of the same breast that looked something like the anatomy pic above.

Since they didn't have a cut away of her cute heart-shaped ass, he immediately converted, rather palely, from being a tit man like his dad, to a butt man like his brother. Personally, I was thankful they didn't have that ass cut away or he may have developed gender preference issues.

Anyway, inside the candy coating are predominantly milk glands, fat tissue, and lymph nodes. The more fat, the bigger the tit, so you folks that like 'em big might want to keep your cholesterol in mind. As for all these glandy-duct-fat-things, most of them can rupture if handled improperly. Busted fat tissue can harden into lumpy things that confuse doctors and x-rays and scare the pee out of most women. Mishandled milk glands can hamper milk production and cause other nasty problems. Lymph nodes, though certainly there for some important purpose, are the site of one of the meanest cancer problems around, and once infected, frequently spread cancer through a body like a bad chain letter.

In summary, regardless of the color of the breast part that you're about to rope, clamp, pierce, or otherwise perpetrate on, remember most importantly that you want to concentrate your efforts on the candy coating outside and not the soft middle inside.

I'll discuss how different types of torment can be directed at these candy parts shortly, and what can be done that might be safe for the deeper stuff. So don’t worry all you fledgling Marquis de Sade and “O”s out there, that leaves plenty of room for use of the safe word, as we'll soon see.

Author's Note - Serious problems, ranging from fibroadenoma to breast cancer, are very real issues when it comes to playing fast and rough with breasts. Any damage to the inner workings of a breast places the woman at risk. Skin is made to take certain amount of abuse, and nipples and areola are made, within reason, for even more, particularly in a rug rat biting and sucking on them until they’re numb sort of way, but, you do not want to do anything that will bruise, cut, pierce or otherwise cause damage below skin level!

The Good Stuff

Now that we've covered the scientific part of our primer and given you all sorts of subliminal reasons to surf for one of the gazillions of articles on breast health out there, I'll move on to the real reason you're here - that being the types of tit torment and how to go about doing them. Keep in mind that this is an educational piece of literature. Please keep both of your hands on the keyboard.

When folks talk about torturing tits they likely have any number of goals in mind, usually depending upon whether you're the tormentor or the tormentee. Sometimes those goals coincide, and sometimes they don't. Provided everyone is in agreement that they're getting something sexually, psychologically, or financially profitable out of the deal, common goals aren't necessarily important.

For the receiver - generally the person that is bound helplessly and has the breasts that are being physically assailed - one might be striving for the achievement of something referred to as "sub-space." Sub-space is a state of consciousness that some women achieve whereby the pain caused by having torment inflicted on their tits, generally coupled with some type of pleasurable stimulation located between their legs, transforms into an even stronger form of pleasure.

Having never been a sub, and having been deprived of breasts well into the early stages of cell division, I can only take the words of those women that seek this transcendental state, and work to help get their endorphins into such a tizzy that taking to their breasts with a chain saw would result in an orgasm that rivals the eruption of Mount Vesuvius.

"What are endorphins," you ask. Well, endorphins are chemicals that come out in gangs and go square-dancing through some parts of your brain when other body parts are screaming "ouch!" For the sake of this primer, the "ouch" screamers would be a breast or nipple. Endorphins are rather like Henry Kissinger in his hey-day, basically convincing your brain that what the tormented body part really means is, "Please, sir, may I have another?"

In scientific terms, endorphins are small-chain peptides that activate opiate receptors, producing feeling of well-being, tolerance to pain, and so on. According to the experts, these compounds are hundreds or even thousands of times more potent than morphine. For our purposes, endorphins can go beyond just the sensation of euphoria to feelings of "flying," "floating," "loss of will" and to "psychic connection" with the Master or dealer of torment that can last for hours, or supposedly days, after the event.

This condition of erotically altered consciousness is called "sub-space."

Now, aside from this spiritual enlightenment, other women simply enjoy seeing their Master, husband, john, or boss enjoying him or herself and are willing to submit to whatever forms of torment their partner cares to lavish upon them, getting off on their partner's fun pretty much the same way all of us get off on getting our partner off, assuming that is something we all do.

Most find themselves somewhere between these two states of being.

As for the giver - generally the person doing notorious things to the breasts of the female person that's tied up and helpless - the goal may be to launch his partner into sub-space while getting his or her rocks off by watching her boobs bounce like big super balls. It may be a power thing, where he or she gets a thrill from being in total control over his or her slave's bod. Knowing that this pair of tits are the most precious commodity that he or she has been entrusted to abuse to the razor's edge makes the tormentor's life a spiritual high... or something like that.

Personally, I'll leave the psychological reasoning for your enjoyment of such things to you and your counselor. I'm a visual guy myself and just like to see boobs bouncing and being contorted into pretzel-like shapes.

It's the simple things in life, you know...

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By far the most common way for a woman to regularly reach orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. Before we just into that subject, I think it may help to share with you some information about the clitoris.

The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive. It is often covered by a clitoral hood.

Many people don't realize that only a small portion of the clitoris is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris. First, all female mammals have a clitoris. This is interesting because the sole purpose, at least according to biologists, of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren't the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels.

Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.

The only real difference between a clitoris and a penis - besides location in the body - seems to be that the penis is also used for urination while the clitoris is not.

With that said, its important to realize that the clitoris is really similar in size to the penis, even though most of it cannot be seen. Vibrations through the pelvic region caused by intercourse could stimulate the nerve endings in the unseen part of the clitoris as well and this can also cause orgasms.

What many people don't realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman's body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

The question is how does one engage in clitoral stimulation. Some male partners take the approach that the women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, this is one way to deal with it.

Another method is by, what I like to call multi-tasking. Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we'll discuss those ways a little later). If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option.

Other couples I've met with have resorted to an alternative approach. One person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility but it's usually not the most satisfactory approach.

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships which may have become less enthusiastic over time.

And the key is experimenting because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

Before I close this article, let's talk about what happens during a clitoral orgasm. As I mentioned above, the clitoris feels up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means its usually easier to spot when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is aroused properly. That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement.

When the clitoris is stimulate repeatedly, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. With another stimulation a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released and this point is considered the orgasm.

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Anus is a sensual erogenous zone. It's directly connected with the nervous system that conveys the feeling of sexual pleasure to the mind and evokes physical response. Sexual excitement turns palms red, sways nose wings, wets vagina and rhythmically contracts anal muscles. Even if during anal coitus, clitoris and vagina aren't additionally stimulated, they, nevertheless, get sensual pleasure from voluptuous anal manipulations.

Anal sex toys vary greatly. The whole range of these devices suit both men, and women to the same extent. There are toys for self-stimulation and for games between partners.

Anal sex toys can be easily distinguished by wide base or handle crosscut valve. This is to avoid unwanted penetration of separate parts or the whole device into anus. The point is that our bowels are very long and rectum isn't straight at all but has some curves in the sacral bone and perineum. Consequently, objects can easily fall inside.

Should this happen, immediately visit your doctor and frankly tell about your "loss" whether you want it or not. The doctor will never cast distrustful and astonished glances at a ruthful patient. He or she knows that such things happen and even more often than we can imagine. Surgeons extract from their patients' bowels dildos made of thick rubber, spray cans, coca-cola and champagne bottles, radio valves, candles, newspapers, ping-pong balls, spade handles, table legs and hoover attachments. Doctors say that exquisite refinement of sex has no limits.

For heterosexual couples there are anal sex toys with new features: nowadays the woman can herself penetrate her partner's anus or the man can additionally stimulate his woman's anus during vaginal coitus with the help of special anal stimulators fixing on penis. While his flesh and blood phallus actively penetrates her vagina, the woman's anus is simultaneously stimulated by thin anal toy.

It was as early as several centuries ago that the people of Asia invented such a "rod", fixing with the help of a ring and lace that has reached our times in same shape but of softer material. Modern super-invention of IT is the electric anal vibrator fixing likewise.

As to the fears that the anus is too thin for penetration, look into your lavatory pan after evacuation: everything you'll see there can fit back in almost same volume. Moreover, erotic anal games should not obligatory end with coitus. Anus tongue or finger stimulation will also bring your partner much pleasure.

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This article is aimed at the young but will be of help to anyone who may be questioning their sexuality and wondering if they might be gay.

Am I Gay? I guess this is a question a lot of young men will have asked themselves during their confusing adolescent years; it's certainly one that every gay man will at some time have had to tackle, and come to terms with on discovering the true answer.

Of course, there are the lucky ones - the majority - those people for whom their sexuality has never been in any doubt. They are the very people who, by their heterosexual appetite and acknowledged prowess with the opposite sex, may have initiated that desperate question in other minds.

But to not be one of that majority, to not have the same appetite for the opposite sex, does not immediately make anyone gay.

Times are changing slowly, perhaps too slowly, for most children still grow up in an overwhelmingly heterosexual world - a world that will by its very existence from an early age have instilled expectations and preconceived ideas in every boy's mind - so should the time come that he reaches puberty, and his juvenile years, and he finds that those expectations are not being met as they are by his friends, he becomes concerned.

He begins to suspect that he is different to the mates that he grew up with - and it troubles him. But trouble is too weak a word. At this stage of human development to suddenly not be ranked along with one's peers can be devastating. The questioning and gnawing fears in a boy's mind may remain closely guarded secrets - because they have to be.

Faced with this feeling of being different, young men may react in many different ways. Only a few will cope with the situation easily. Some may become reclusive; some may turn to bullying others; some to drink and drugs; and some may undoubtedly turn towards criminal behaviour to gain their much needed kudos - however, most will try to maintain an act: an appearance of being perfectly "normal".

This act, and the feeling of a need to prove themselves to their family and friends, will often only exasperate the problem. And when thoughts for the same sex enter their minds, thoughts that they may believe to be bad or wrong, a great feeling of guilt can engulf them.

It can be a very desperate time in a young man's life. It is a time when some may even come to consider suicide - and that, purely the result of the failings, the teachings and the expectations of a mainly ignorant heterosexual world, should never be!

Puberty, and the working of the sexual equipment, arrives at different times for different people. There is nothing wrong or untoward about being a late developer - many races are won by those who had a poor start. And even once everything is found to be in working order, it is quite normal for the feelings and the desires that arrive around this time to be "strange", to say the least!

The sudden explosion of hormones the body has to try to make some sense out of can for some bring forth quite peculiar urges, fascinations, and attractions. At this time it is not uncommon for those who will later be "normal" heterosexual men to have "a crush" on someone of the same sex. It may be a schoolmaster; it may be a friend - it could be anyone, there are no rules, and it may not just be the one person - it may be many.

There is nothing wrong, and this is not the time to fear one's sexual orientation; more a time to consider its possibilities.

For most who have arrived at this stage, they will have had no preparation for the alternative sexual orientations that life can deal out. Such is the failing of society, for around one in ten males will turn out to be gay, and around one in five males will at some time in their lives have gay sex. Each one of these people will be some proud parent's son. They could be anyone's son. These are facts that may be hard to accept by some people, but to life itself they are the "normal".

Sexual orientation is not hereditary, neither can it be instilled by corruption, persuasion, lifestyle or by any other means - and no matter what anyone may tell you, or claim, it most definitely cannot be changed. It is what you are.

Were it to be any different, then in a vastly heterosexual society, and with few gay people actually reproducing, by long before now there would have been no gay people left in the world.

But it is a known fact that the percentage of homosexual people in the world has varied little throughout all history, and although we may yet not understand the reason for it, nature has seen fit to maintain this status quo.

We now come to the crunch question: how do I know if I am gay?

I suppose the simple answer is - you just know. But you do need to wait until all those hormones have settled down a bit before asking the question. Once that has happened the sexual desires and urges will be noticeably better fed and nourished by the thoughts and fantasies of either one or the other of the two sexes.

Crudely put: whatever makes you "cum" the easiest and the best will give you the answer. For just a few people this may be equal, or it may alternate continuously throughout their lives, and they are what we term as being: bisexual.

Gay, straight or bisexual, it matters not - you are you, and you are unique. Whatever sexuality you may be, no two people are ever exactly the same - not even identical twins. Be proud of who and what you are, and if you find that you are gay or bisexual then remember that that is quite normal in the great scheme of things, it is only some areas of society that still have a problem with this - and the problem is theirs, not yours.

One of the biggest mysteries in the world today is why some people have a problem with another person's sexuality when you consider all the great names there have been throughout history that have been known not to be heterosexual.

Great emperors, kings, war-lords, painters, writers, poets, musicians, composers, pop singers, fashion gurus, astrologers, philosophers, architects, engineers and many, many others all enjoying pride of place in history have been either gay or bisexual - the list is almost endless, and it even includes a pope or two! Their sexual orientation never hampered these people - it need not hamper you.

Judy Garland is reputed to have said: "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." There could be no better advice. Another quote I love came from the late, great, and still sadly missed Dusty Springfield: "My sexuality has never been a problem to me but I think it has been for other people."

There is nothing at all wrong with being gay, however it does come with some burdens that heterosexuals never have to face.

There is the gay scene - known by all to be notoriously promiscuous - and although it is representative of less than a quarter of all gay people it is what a gay person will always be seen as being a part of by many uninformed heterosexual people.

Then there is the whole "coming out" saga. Should you come out to family and friends, at work, to all and sundry, or not do it at all?

Facing up to this issue can be traumatic for some people - and whatever you finally decide on as being best for you, even staying "in the closet", it will not be without some implications.

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